Parenting with Jill and Leeann!!!

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Well, surprise everyone, we are
either about to really

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disappoint some loyal podcast
listeners or maybe we are just

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the missing piece that truly
brings this podcast to the next

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level.
I guess I should introduce

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ourselves because this is
potentially very confusing to

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people hearing to women's
voices.

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Instead of Zac and Michael, I'm
Leanne.

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I am Zac's wife, AKA the one who
does not like Lord of the Rings,

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who does not like catching
snakes and does not like the

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Patriots.
My lovely Co host here, who

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might you be?
I'm Jill.

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I also don't like snakes.
I do like the Patriots.

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I don't like Narnia.
I don't use big words.

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I am.
I am Michael's wife and I don't

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know where to look.
Leanne right here.

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I I.
Know I'm wondering where Who are

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the people watching?
I am Michael's life, that I am

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Michael, and I are not that much
alike.

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I don't use big words.
I won't talk about

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dispensationalism.
I don't understand half of the

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things he says on the podcast,
but I do.

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Listen, are you a Coco fan?
I I, if I'm in the car with him,

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I'll listen to it, but I don't,
I've learned to appreciate him.

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I feel like my kids have like,
yeah, that's good.

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Learned a lot from him, but
that's not a word that comes up.

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No, I don't, Michael.
And I get a.

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Little He just rolls off his
lips.

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We're not alive.
All right, so before we jump in

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and explain what this episode is
going to be about today, Jill,

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you had a great idea of starting
off by kind of briefly sharing

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how these husbands of ours got
down on one knee and proposed.

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So, in the words of my husband,
buckle up, because we're about

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to take engagement stories to
the next level.

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From the hearts of the Low
Country in South Carolina, it's

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the Take Two podcast where we
take theology.

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To the next level.
Jill, you want to start?

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I'm dying to, yeah.
Mine how did Michael proposed?

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Mine won't be that long.
OK, all right, Short and sweet.

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Well, the first thing I always
think of is I think when you

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think you're going to get
engaged, you think you're going

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to be like, well, this wasn't
the case for me.

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You think you're going to be
super surprised.

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You're going to have no idea
it's coming.

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You're going to have no idea
what the ring looks like.

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It's going to be total surprise.
For me, it was not that, which

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was OK Michael actually would
ask me like what kind of ring I

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would want.
He started, you know, 'cause

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when you invest in something
like that, it wasn't the one

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that I wear right now because
I've gained weight.

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My fingers gained 40 lbs, just
my finger.

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But anyway, so do you know who
Fernando Ortega is?

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He's like a folklore Christian
singer.

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A few months ago, Michael sang
one of his songs in church, and

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I could hear Elise Compton look
at her parents and go, I've

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never heard this.
He's not very well known, but

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Michael loved him very much from
college on.

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So I guess he found out he was
having a concert nearby in

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Arkansas, so he had bought
tickets to go, and that was a

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night he had to plan on asking
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I didn't know any of that.
But then they had to cancel the

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concert because not enough
people saw.

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It to go.
So Michael did not know what to

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do and I didn't.
I think I had a hint that that

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night something would happen.
I can't.

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I think he called my house and
said something that kind of

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tipped me off.
But that night he gets to my

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house, he comes inside and gets
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We get back in his truck and
the, there's the ring box

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sitting there on the thing.
But he didn't mean for it to be.

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Oh, no.
And I was just sat down in the

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seat and I looked at it and I
was like, what's that?

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And he goes, oh, it's your ring,
he.

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Goes I love it.
Do you want to look at it?

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And I was like, let me just say
when I told him I was telling

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the story, he's like, Oh no.
I was like I can tell my version

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and you can tell your version.
Yeah, they'll be back on the mic

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soon.
Yeah, I think correct.

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And I said sure.
And he opened the box, and he

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was like, do you want to put it
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He didn't get on and down on a
million.

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And then this time we're like,
kind of headed down the

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driveway.
And I was like, well, are you

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going to ask me to marry you?
And he was like, yeah, will you

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marry me?
And I was like, turn around.

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Let's go tell my mom and dad
that.

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But you need to tell them how
long you've been together.

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Oh, like six years.
We started dating.

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He asked me out in kindergarten.
I was going to say, 'cause you

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knew each other, like, yes, like
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He asked me to be his girlfriend
in 3rd grade but I told him my

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mom would not allow that.
But finally when I was a junior

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we started dating.
So a junior until I think he

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asked me to marry him our senior
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So we danced.
For a very long Yeah, yeah.

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Let's hear yours, Leanne.
All right.

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I will say Zach did a very good
job on ours.

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It was Christmas Day.
I was in Maine, Zach was in

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Florida, and he calls me and I'm
assuming it's to wish me a Merry

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Christmas.
And he does say Merry Christmas,

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but then he says go pack a
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You have a flight to come see me
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And I'm like speed pack mode.
I am a planner, which we'll get

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to that later and so this was
not nothing was planned for

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Leanne.
So I'm packing frantically.

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Fast forward Zach picks me up
from the airport and let me say

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this.
My suitcase was packed full of

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really cute outfits.
Like I knew this was going to be

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the week I I knew it.
So every outfit that I packed

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was adorable.
But I have airplane outfits.

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Do you have an like an airplane
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Basically pajamas.

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Yeah, basically pajamas.
Yeah.

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It's ugly jeans that I just
gonna like not wear the rest of

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the time.
The hoodie.

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And for some reason I also had a
rain jacket on.

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It wasn't raining.
I have no memory.

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Raining rain, rain in love.
But dad, no rain from the skies.

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So I'm in airplane, airplane
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And that will come into play
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Anyway, he he picks me up.
His parents live really close to

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the beach.
So he's like, you want to go

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take a walk on the beach?
And it's like, sure, you know,

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the sun had already said it's
really peaceful.

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We're walking.
And my eyes are like fixated on

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this blue blinking dot in the
sand, like a little bit farther

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ahead of us.
I keep saying, let's go, let's

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go check it out.
Like, why do I want to check out

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a blue flashing light?
I don't know, but I really

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wanted to.
And he really did not want me to

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check this out.
So he's like diverting my

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attention.
Finally, I listen and he's like,

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let's just sit down.
So we sit down and I sit next to

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a bottle.
And he's like, Leanne, why don't

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you open that bottle?
I'm like, no, thank you.

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That's disgusting.
I don't want to open a bottle of

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a random stranger.
And so I'm like, ruining all his

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plans without meaning to and
really making this difficult for

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him.
Finally.

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I agree.
I look in the bottle and there's

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a note saying turn around when
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Mars Marry Me starts playing.
I turn.

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Around that.
He did a really good job.

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He.
Did and Christmas lights are

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like lit up on like a path in
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Christmas light heart with our
initials.

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He's on one knee, so I'm hard to
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He's.
I had no idea.

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So the reason I said the
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those outfits weren't awake.
But that's all right.

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That's all right.
It's really good.

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Yeah.
No, he did a good job, Zach.

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He did a good job.
So good stories.

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Yeah.
I guess we should say the guys

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suggested we do a parenting
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So I think we kind of decided
we're just kind of back and

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forth.
Yeah.

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Share a piece of advice.
Go like short, sweet, simple,

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and maybe end with a couple
resources.

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It looks like you got some over
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I brought a couple of mine.
I don't care who goes for.

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I guess we just our kids, how
many kids we have like 9 between

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us.
Is that do I count right?

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I have 5 ranging from 20 to
four, which is our surprise.

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Everything in between.
And so my I have four and yours

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are all girls, All girls.
I don't know if you just said

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that, but I just want to make
sure you said that I did.

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So we have all boys, Zach and I
have four boys ranging from 7

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down to two.
So we're.

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A different stage.
Yeah, we're at different stages.

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We cover a broad spectrum of
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different gender households.
So it's like, I think we've got

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a good, good mix here.
You want You want to start off.

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You want me to start.
Off what do you want?

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What are you feeling?
How are you feeling, Jill?

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I'll let you because I told I
was trying to.

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I told my engagement story
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So you have to do your first
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OK, all right, I'll go first.
All right, my first piece of

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advice, don't count 123 for
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And I'm going to say right off
the gate, this one comes from no

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other than my grandchild.
I had not pre read your notes so

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I mean I when you sent them to
me like a long time ago, but I

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had totally forgotten what you
had said but yeah OK.

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Jayden was a baby.
Jayden's our oldest.

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He was a baby.
We are at a baby shower.

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I don't remember whose, but.
He was probably, I don't

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remember, would it be Kelly
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But that wasn't.
That wouldn't make sense.

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I don't know.
I don't know whose it was, but

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it it really did stick with me.
It's simple, but it's genius.

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Like, why would I teach my kids
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And I grew up with the 123
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My brother and I learned
fractions from the 123 method.

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You want to know how we learn
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Really.
I probably did not learn

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fractions 'cause I probably came
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Like my mom didn't have to get
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My brother, on the other hand,
one, one and a half, 1 1/2 to

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like give him extra time to come
'cause that boy wasn't coming on

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on one.
But no, I think it's, I think

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it's simple, but I think that's
a solid piece of advice.

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And I, I'm pretty sure I could
confidently say I have never

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counted to three with my kids
since hearing that from you.

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Like, I just thought that was
really, that really stuck with

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me and that came from.
Me.

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Well, yeah, you'll be at a
restaurant sometime and you'll

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hear somebody doing that and
you're like, what are you going

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to do when you get to three?
Because then they go, I'm not

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kidding.
Like they don't.

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Usually do you have to.
After that you have to, yeah.

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It's just, yeah.
That was.

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Very good, very good.
Well, since you OK, I'm not

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going to go in the order I wrote
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So since you mentioned that I'll
go into and I hope I didn't.

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Still, I hope we don't have the
same thing.

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I hope not either.
Practicing obedience.

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So what that wouldn't look like
is, and it's more when they're

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younger than when they're older.
Like if I were to tell my 4 year

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old Phoebe, hey, I want you to
put your toy down and come to

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mommy.
And she says OK, but she sits

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there for another 3 or 4 minutes
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I'd be like Phoebe, mommy said
come to mommy.

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And like you, it's like you were
saying like we want obedience

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quickly and cheerfully because
that's how we should obey the

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Lord.
It doesn't mean it's easy, but

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delayed obedience is
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So the way we would practice,
and we learned this from from

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Jenny, you would say, all right,
Phoebe, you didn't obey me

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quickly and cheerfully.
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So you would have them do it 10
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Oh, wow.
And in the beginning, it's a

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little bit annoying to them.
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eighth time, everyone's laughing
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But then they realize, like,
that's what I'm looking for.

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Like, show them exactly what it
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Like put down your toy, come to
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door or whatever it is because
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in a parking lot or something
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it.
Really is urgent that they.

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Really need to come to mommy
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and also like I said, you want
them to be tender to the Lord

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and and learn to obey him
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Do you say quickly and
cheerfully?

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Is that like, Yes, you say
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I hear.
I've heard other people use

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different phrases.
I feel like I've heard you say

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something similar.
That's my number 20.

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Is it really too?
I'm sorry.

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Now it's going to go in
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That's why I was asking if you
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Mine is a common household
saying obey right away all the

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way with a happy heart is.
That what the Compton say to I

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thought that.
I don't, so I don't know who to

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coin.
This was not original to me.

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I actually now that you say the
Compton's, I think Sarah read

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something at like a ladies Bible
study that had that.

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So and I think they do sometimes
use like happy heart maybe or

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something like that.
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It's kind of become a joke now,
even like with working with a

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college group like oh, Lian's
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Happy hard, happy hard.
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I think it's, you know, just a
simple way to teach very

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important truths, you know, and
I as they grow, you know, I want

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it to be ingrained in their mind
that when they're adults and

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they're, you know, I want them
to be men of obedience, to obey

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the Lord right away, all the way
with a happy heart and the happy

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heart kind of just pointing to,
you know, like anybody can

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outwardly obey, right?
But God's after our hearts, like

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you were saying, like, you know,
he wants that heart attitude

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that goes with it.
So I, it's, I've said it since

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they were babies.
I still say it now.

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It's annoying to them at times
probably, but I hope that I'm

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saying it enough that they
that's just something that

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naturally sticks with them and
they remember as they get older

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making decisions.
Very similarly, Anne.

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Oh, we're doing good.
So is it your turn?

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No, I just went obey right away,
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Oh yeah, that was OK.

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Sorry.
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to say, let's take this to the
next level, this is a take 3

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pocket get to.
The next level, I said buckle

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up, we're going to be taking
nature stories to the next

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level.
I was so proud of that line.

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That was good.
I did.

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I do remember that.
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OK, so my number one point was,
and it's funny because it's not

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exactly about parenting, but is
love your husband.

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Well, and what I mean by that is
brag on him in front of your

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kids.
If Michael's ever not around, I

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always say to the girls, oh,
your dad is so smart.

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He's so strong.
He can fix anything and talk

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about, you know, I just brag on
him.

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Yeah, that's really good.
I'm not saying that I I've never

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had a bad attitude or ever seem
discontent in something he's

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requested of us or said.
But I think overall my kids

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would say mom.
Well we tell them all the time

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we're on the same team.
Like if dad told you no about

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something, don't come and ask me
because he's the captain, I'm

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the Co captain.
We're on the same team.

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And that might even look like if
I do disagree with Michael, I

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can disagree with Michael, but
it might be like later on in

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private, like, hey, you know,
when you told her this, that can

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you tell me more behind that?
And then but I in front of my

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kids, I don't ever say Michael,
what are you thinking?

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Yeah, and I feel like that
prepares my kids for knowing

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what to look like in a husband.
You want a guy who's strong, who

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can protect you, who's smart,
who loves the Lord ultimately.

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And I think when you're raising
boys, it shows them what they

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are to emulate as they grow up.
You getting teary eyed Jill?

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A little.
I don't want to cry, but yeah, I

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just, I tried to, I tried really
hard to brag on my kids and and

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I.
Think even that goes even more

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than your kids just seeing that.
Like I I think that's very

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evident.
Just being your friend, you

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know, like I think that's
something that I would never

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question.
Like you're just, you know.

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I'm proud.
I am proud of Michael.

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Yeah.
And I want my kids.

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I'll tell my girls all the time
marry a guy that you that loves

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God and loves others and that's
going to serve your family

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faithfully no matter what.
So.

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Yeah, no, I think that's a
really good.

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I didn't have one about this is
good because we're hitting.

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I'm glad we're not like
overlapping.

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That was a really good one.
So this one is going to sound

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like super like most of these
are very simple, but it's stuff

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that I feel like has big impact
or I hope it does anyway.

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So praying in the car on the way
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I don't know what your mornings
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before school in the hail home,
it is very chaotic.

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They have the same chores.
So I'm really not sure why it's

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so difficult to remember to eat
your breakfast and brush your

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teeth, do your hair, put lotion.
I mean like just getting out of

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the door is is a is a struggle.
So when we get in the car, I

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want like a, I want to make sure
we are on the same page before

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we all go in different
directions.

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I want to like just make sure
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So we might be hustling,
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when we get in the car, it's a
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My youngest is 2 and we just go

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to the oldest and I close in
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But we each pray and I have seen
this really just transform from

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very self focused prayers like
when they're little, you know,

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to I just want to like pray all
about me and what my toys and

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all the, you know, these things
that just matter to them to

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really just slowing down and
teaching them to be thoughtful,

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praying for others.
My oldest to 2nd and 1st grade.

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So they're memorizing Bible
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Every week they have a new verse
and I've even heard my kids pray

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those verses in their prayers.
And they're, they're young, like

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our oldest is only 7, you know,
but they're, they're praying

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those prayers.
They're praying attributes of

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God.
They're praying, I don't know,

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Jordan's on a fruit of the
spirit kick.

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So he's praying as many as he
can remember.

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And that's not to say that every
single time from the back of my

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minivan, I'm hearing like these
deep, thoughtful prayers, but I

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will, I really will say more
times than not that that is what

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they are.
But I think it's because we have

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practiced this for so long.
Like even when Jayden went to a

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preschool, we had a lot of
driving time and we prayed in

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the car on the way to school.
IA couple weeks ago.

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This was not supposed to be like
a every week thing, but I was

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just like Monday came and I was
like, I'm going to give you boys

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Icha day and mommy's going to
say a special prayer for you.

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So Jayden was Monday, Jackson
was Tuesday and so on.

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around and boys are like, don't

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forget our special prayers.
I I'm Monday, like, don't

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forget.
So it meant a, it meant a lot to

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them.
And so this past week I was

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like, well, we might as well
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we're going to Daddy's.
Day we're going.

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To do this every week now, I
guess, and that's very sweet.

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But Saturday rolled around and
Jayden was praying with his

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brothers at breakfast.
And he says this like, really

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sweet prayer about me.
I'm like, I don't hear this very

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often.
This is this is nice.

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So he's praying this thoughtful
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I'm like, Jaden, that was so
sweet.

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Thank you so much for thinking
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You know, mommy needs prayer
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And he said, well, I just
thought since we all have a day

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now and now that dad has a day,
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And so.
That was very.

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Thoughtful of him to do, but
just just little things like

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praying, but making it a pattern
that they they know every time

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they get in the car that's we're
going to put God first and we're

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going to start our day outright.
That's really good.

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We don't pray on the way to
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I have.
I have tried to listen to

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worship music on the way to
school.

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Yeah, that's big, yeah.
If IA lot of times my kids will

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try to pick their own songs and
they don't listen to anything

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inappropriate.
But like The Beatles don't

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really it's fine.
But like, you know, putting I do

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think in Pastor Joe talks about
a lot.

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I think listening to worship
music really sets the tone for

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your thoughts and your heart.
So yeah, that's really good.

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Leanne.
Well, I mean, that kind of kicks

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me off to my point, which is
pray for your kids.

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I know that seems so simple but
and like you specifically

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mentioned, I think it's
important and I know Jack White

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and Pastor would say the same.
Praying Scripture for your kids

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and when we do our resources, I
have a book over here like I

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think when you pray Scripture,
you know the Lord.

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I mean, the Lord hears you
anyway, but you know you're

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praying in accordance to His
will when you pray scripture,

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and I think you mentioned in
your kids learning scripture is

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a huge deal.
Like when they hide that in

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their heart.
I mean, the verses I remember

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are verses that I learned when I
was little.

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It's harder.
I mean I'm not super old right

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now, but it is harder the older
you get to.

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Remember that it is so, yeah.
Very good.

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Yeah.
So that was another point that

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we kind of had that.
Yeah, it's good that.

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Tag off each.
Other.

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Yeah.
Nice.

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OK, my next one, not super
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importance of routines and at
the same time knowing when to be

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flexible.
So I am very much a schedule

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oriented person can tell the
last couple of times trying to

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plan out this podcast.
Just let me know, Michael,

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before you're going to bring
Jill over.

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Like the hour you bring her
over, please.

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I.
Will be there in 10 minutes.

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Yeah, I.
I thrive with lists and

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schedules and and Zach's really
good at, you know, balancing me

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out and letting me know it's OK.
Like we can be flexible too.

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But I do think it's helped us
tremendously, like from infant

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age, now our oldest is 8.
I don't know what that's going

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to look like when they're in
high school.

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You can talk more about that
probably in a little bit, but I

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think it has been to help our
kids for the most part, know

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what to expect.
And it's over little things like

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snacks too.
Like there's snack time.

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Like if I let Jordy eat a snack
every time he asks me for a

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snack, a boy would that boy can
eat.

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That boy cannot eat supper to
save his life, but that boy can

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eat snacks to survive an entire
lifetime, several lifetimes

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worth of snacks.
So just the important, like they

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know bedtime meal times.
Like, we try to keep it pretty

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consistent, but at the same time
knowing when to be flexible.

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We work with the college group
at our church.

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So Wednesday nights often we are
closing down and locking down

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the church.
We are getting home late well

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past bedtime and Thursday
mornings are a challenge.

448
00:22:14,120 --> 00:22:17,800
But Zach and I both think, you
know, like our kids are seeing

449
00:22:17,800 --> 00:22:22,560
the importance of us serving in.
In the relationship they have

450
00:22:22,560 --> 00:22:27,040
with you know you see with the
hawk toys and the girl like it,

451
00:22:27,640 --> 00:22:29,400
those are relationships your
kids will remember.

452
00:22:29,440 --> 00:22:30,760
Yeah, I think those are
important.

453
00:22:30,760 --> 00:22:35,280
And, you know, just being
careful not to stick to that

454
00:22:35,800 --> 00:22:38,600
routine.
You on the other side, you can

455
00:22:38,600 --> 00:22:40,640
become.
So like I've seen people become

456
00:22:40,640 --> 00:22:44,200
homebound like they have a kid,
they they're no longer available

457
00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:46,640
to do anything.
Like they're home, they can't do

458
00:22:46,640 --> 00:22:49,320
anything.
And I think community is so

459
00:22:49,320 --> 00:22:51,680
important.
Like being a first time mom.

460
00:22:51,720 --> 00:22:56,560
I looked to you, to Luanna, to
Sarah for so many things like

461
00:22:56,560 --> 00:22:58,560
just having home groups and
asking.

462
00:22:58,600 --> 00:23:01,000
I mean, I still ask you guys for
advice and look to y'all for

463
00:23:01,000 --> 00:23:05,400
wisdom, but just the importance
of not like becoming so

464
00:23:06,520 --> 00:23:09,320
legalistic yourself in your home
and like we can't go anywhere

465
00:23:09,320 --> 00:23:11,840
because the baby has to do this,
this business and we can't do

466
00:23:11,840 --> 00:23:14,360
anything, you know?
So just having a balance and

467
00:23:14,360 --> 00:23:16,960
Zach's good at helping me with
that because if if he wasn't

468
00:23:16,960 --> 00:23:20,640
around, I'd be living by that.
But I calendar I really like.

469
00:23:20,640 --> 00:23:25,960
No one would see lean past 8 PO.
Oh that's good.

470
00:23:25,960 --> 00:23:28,320
I will say when the kids were
younger I feel like I was better

471
00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:30,120
at routines the older they have
gotten.

472
00:23:30,160 --> 00:23:32,280
We are all over the place.
I'm sure you are.

473
00:23:32,280 --> 00:23:35,320
Sports and stuff, yeah,
sometimes you don't get home

474
00:23:35,320 --> 00:23:38,880
from volleyball games or soccer
or whatever till if it's an away

475
00:23:38,880 --> 00:23:41,680
game, it could be 10 or 10:30 at
night, which if you would have

476
00:23:41,680 --> 00:23:44,360
told me with it when Chloe was
four, if I was putting her bed

477
00:23:44,360 --> 00:23:48,200
at 10:30 or 11:00, I would have
had a chicken like I could not

478
00:23:48,200 --> 00:23:50,120
handle.
It between OK so Chloe's how

479
00:23:50,120 --> 00:23:53,560
old?
20 almost 2144, almost five,

480
00:23:53,560 --> 00:23:55,880
yeah.
So that's probably like super,

481
00:23:56,400 --> 00:23:59,920
yeah, different from what you
the first time around to the.

482
00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:03,920
Phoebe's life is in gymnasiums
and soccer fields and softball

483
00:24:03,920 --> 00:24:07,880
fields and football fields until
late at night, and thankfully

484
00:24:07,880 --> 00:24:10,080
she's handled it well.
But no, I agree, I think a good

485
00:24:10,080 --> 00:24:12,280
routine goes a long way and I
think it prepares them for

486
00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:15,240
adulthood like in college and
stuff to make their own routine.

487
00:24:15,240 --> 00:24:20,360
So that's really good.
The next point I had is learn to

488
00:24:20,360 --> 00:24:22,960
apologize to your kids.
Sounds good.

489
00:24:23,160 --> 00:24:28,480
If you do something wrong, don't
be afraid to say mommy got

490
00:24:28,480 --> 00:24:32,000
really upset and mommy did not
talk nice to you and I am sorry.

491
00:24:32,400 --> 00:24:36,000
And in our family, every apology
ends in will you please forgive

492
00:24:36,000 --> 00:24:38,560
me, which is the hardest
sentence to get out sometimes

493
00:24:38,600 --> 00:24:41,640
yes, because then you're looking
to them for, you know, please

494
00:24:42,200 --> 00:24:44,880
forgive me.
So I would say learn to

495
00:24:44,880 --> 00:24:49,400
apologize and secondly, kind of
with that, I would say learn how

496
00:24:49,400 --> 00:24:54,680
to handle conflict biblically.
And I feel like that starts just

497
00:24:54,680 --> 00:24:57,080
with your you know, when the
girls are little, if they're

498
00:24:57,080 --> 00:25:00,880
fussing about something, I want
them to try to work it out on

499
00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:03,600
their own.
If they can't, you know, the the

500
00:25:03,600 --> 00:25:05,720
next physical step would be come
to mommy like it.

501
00:25:05,720 --> 00:25:10,280
If you and your sister can't
figure this out, come to us and

502
00:25:10,280 --> 00:25:13,240
we'll walk you through it.
Because I think that would go

503
00:25:13,240 --> 00:25:17,280
far in life, not just with
relationships with their

504
00:25:17,280 --> 00:25:21,800
husbands, with their kids when
they're in school now.

505
00:25:21,800 --> 00:25:25,320
Like my kids all have
relationship, you know, they all

506
00:25:25,320 --> 00:25:29,520
have friends that they they get
a long there's always.

507
00:25:29,920 --> 00:25:32,400
We do right, we live.
In a simple world, people are

508
00:25:32,400 --> 00:25:33,960
not like us.
We're all very differently.

509
00:25:33,960 --> 00:25:36,240
We all think very differently.
They're going to run into

510
00:25:36,240 --> 00:25:40,800
conflict and they often will do
a very good job, I think, of

511
00:25:41,200 --> 00:25:44,040
approaching the person if it
didn't go the way they wanted,

512
00:25:44,280 --> 00:25:47,800
including someone else.
I just think that's a great.

513
00:25:47,920 --> 00:25:51,000
That's really good.
Thing to learn for life because

514
00:25:51,000 --> 00:25:53,840
you're going to have conflict
through the whole time you're on

515
00:25:54,280 --> 00:25:56,280
the planet.
Yeah, apologizing to your kids

516
00:25:56,280 --> 00:25:57,680
is really humbling a lot of
times.

517
00:25:57,880 --> 00:26:00,080
Those prayers I was talking
about on the way to school.

518
00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:02,240
Yeah.
How many times have I heard and

519
00:26:02,240 --> 00:26:05,680
be with mommy's bad attitude?
I'll apologize.

520
00:26:05,760 --> 00:26:08,280
I say even Mommy has bad
attitude sometimes, and I'm

521
00:26:08,280 --> 00:26:10,800
sorry.
I be with Mommy's bad.

522
00:26:10,800 --> 00:26:12,320
I'm.
And I think when they teachers

523
00:26:12,400 --> 00:26:13,320
have.
Probably heard that.

524
00:26:15,000 --> 00:26:18,280
I think when they see you
apologize, it helps them

525
00:26:18,280 --> 00:26:19,720
apologize.
Yeah, I think so too.

526
00:26:19,800 --> 00:26:20,760
Yeah.
Yeah.

527
00:26:21,120 --> 00:26:24,480
That we're not so far above them
that were these perfect?

528
00:26:24,640 --> 00:26:26,000
People, we messed up too.
Right.

529
00:26:27,680 --> 00:26:29,320
All right.
This is my last one.

530
00:26:29,560 --> 00:26:30,520
OK, is it?
Do you have?

531
00:26:30,680 --> 00:26:32,040
How many more do?
You have, I've got one more and

532
00:26:32,040 --> 00:26:34,320
then maybe like a few.
The resources.

533
00:26:34,480 --> 00:26:36,520
A few resources, but like a few
little things I didn't know

534
00:26:36,520 --> 00:26:38,520
where to put in my tippets, but
they're not like they're not

535
00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:40,280
like spot for tippets.
They're not super long.

536
00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:44,520
Tidbits from Jill Jill's
tippets.

537
00:26:44,880 --> 00:26:49,880
I don't.
Know all right, this one is

538
00:26:50,240 --> 00:26:56,000
explaining song lyrics.
So I love singing, I love music

539
00:26:56,000 --> 00:26:59,480
This is a way that I can
interact with my kids on

540
00:26:59,480 --> 00:27:02,040
something that's just always
been a really big part of my

541
00:27:02,040 --> 00:27:05,240
life.
We've been able to really talk

542
00:27:05,240 --> 00:27:10,640
about big topics with toddlers
like God's sovereignty, the

543
00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:13,800
brokenness in our world when
God's going to make all things

544
00:27:13,800 --> 00:27:17,720
new.
And I had like 2 examples of

545
00:27:17,720 --> 00:27:20,240
this I could probably give like
a big list 'cause this, this is

546
00:27:20,240 --> 00:27:25,520
a really big thing in our family
but two of them there's a song I

547
00:27:25,520 --> 00:27:27,600
was going to save this for my
resources, but I'm going to do

548
00:27:27,600 --> 00:27:31,160
it right now.
So this also comes from DJ on

549
00:27:31,680 --> 00:27:34,000
music.
Inspired by the story she

550
00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:37,480
introduced me to the CDI would
say this is probably to this day

551
00:27:37,480 --> 00:27:39,240
one of my favorites.
Really, I love it.

552
00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:40,720
I've already listened to it in a
long time.

553
00:27:40,800 --> 00:27:43,360
I, I know and I go in season
where I'm like, I haven't heard

554
00:27:43,360 --> 00:27:46,240
it forever and then I play and
it's like I need to like riding

555
00:27:46,240 --> 00:27:48,560
a bike.
Because it's not on like Amazon,

556
00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:50,320
it's not logging on.
Spotify.

557
00:27:50,400 --> 00:27:51,840
Oh, really?
Yeah, I listen to it on Spotify.

558
00:27:51,840 --> 00:27:54,480
OK, I don't pull this thing out.
I don't say I do have a CD

559
00:27:54,480 --> 00:27:57,400
player.
Yeah, no, we paint.

560
00:27:57,640 --> 00:28:00,400
OK, this is a side note.
We paint the 1st house we lived

561
00:28:00,400 --> 00:28:02,120
in.
We had like a big paint like we

562
00:28:02,120 --> 00:28:03,560
painted the living room and
everything.

563
00:28:03,560 --> 00:28:05,840
That's another story too.
Terrible color choices.

564
00:28:05,840 --> 00:28:10,040
We were we were nearly married
anyway, moving along.

565
00:28:10,360 --> 00:28:14,560
We played this and you want to
see Leanne get like Pentecostal

566
00:28:14,560 --> 00:28:16,480
break out at all?
I mean I'm breaking out an

567
00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:20,360
electric violins playing this.
I love this CD.

568
00:28:20,360 --> 00:28:22,680
This is just a fabulous.
CD you're anyway inspiring me to

569
00:28:22,720 --> 00:28:23,800
get it back out.
You should.

570
00:28:24,560 --> 00:28:26,600
You should remember Paul being
my.

571
00:28:26,680 --> 00:28:27,520
Favorite song?
Oh yeah.

572
00:28:27,760 --> 00:28:29,880
Oh, I, I can't, I don't even
know if I can pick one right

573
00:28:29,880 --> 00:28:32,680
now.
Anyway, so this is playing in

574
00:28:32,680 --> 00:28:34,640
the background, probably on
Spotify actually, 'cause this is

575
00:28:34,640 --> 00:28:37,200
only like last year.
So Jayden's like six or seven at

576
00:28:37,200 --> 00:28:38,920
the time.
And we're, I'm playing a board

577
00:28:38,920 --> 00:28:42,040
game with Jay and Jax and this
song is in the background.

578
00:28:42,880 --> 00:28:45,040
And the song that's playing is
the Adam and Eve 1.

579
00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:49,200
So it's talking about, you know,
from their perspective.

580
00:28:49,360 --> 00:28:52,240
If I could, I'd rewrite history.
I'd choose differently.

581
00:28:52,240 --> 00:28:55,160
If I could, I would.
They're very remorseful.

582
00:28:55,160 --> 00:28:59,160
It's from their perspective, you
know, how they, they chose to

583
00:28:59,160 --> 00:29:02,760
believe Satan's lie when God had
given them everything.

584
00:29:03,200 --> 00:29:05,920
And I'm not even like, I don't
even know that my kids are

585
00:29:05,920 --> 00:29:07,200
paying attention to this right
now.

586
00:29:07,200 --> 00:29:11,080
We're probably playing like, I
don't know, just some what's a

587
00:29:11,240 --> 00:29:12,480
kids game?
I don't know what a kids.

588
00:29:12,920 --> 00:29:14,480
Game I.
Literally was going to say

589
00:29:14,480 --> 00:29:16,280
shoots and ladders, but I don't
own that game.

590
00:29:16,320 --> 00:29:18,440
I probably have every game
except that game.

591
00:29:18,600 --> 00:29:20,120
Candyland.
That's what I was trying to

592
00:29:20,520 --> 00:29:26,040
think so and Jane, he's he just
kind of pauses and he's thinking

593
00:29:26,040 --> 00:29:31,520
he's like, mom, I know all sin
is bad, but in a way Adam and

594
00:29:31,520 --> 00:29:37,200
Eveson was that kind of good,
but kind of bad because without

595
00:29:37,200 --> 00:29:40,920
it we wouldn't need Jesus.
And I just like stopped and I

596
00:29:40,920 --> 00:29:42,520
was dumb.
I almost didn't know how to

597
00:29:42,720 --> 00:29:46,800
answer him at first, but it just
led to this great conversation

598
00:29:46,800 --> 00:29:49,680
about the sovereignty of God and
how even though, you know, we're

599
00:29:49,680 --> 00:29:54,160
sinful people, God can still get
glory from it and he can glorify

600
00:29:54,160 --> 00:29:57,680
himself through it.
So that was a a big one.

601
00:29:57,680 --> 00:30:00,400
And then the other one was just
recently, you know, the song

602
00:30:00,400 --> 00:30:02,760
Heaven changes Everything.
Can you sing it?

603
00:30:02,880 --> 00:30:05,560
No, I cannot right now.
Can Pastor Joel sing it?

604
00:30:06,800 --> 00:30:07,840
Yeah.
Pastor Joel, where?

605
00:30:08,680 --> 00:30:10,360
Maybe.
Anyway it's it's just talks

606
00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:13,080
about like without the hope of
heaven, tears would just be

607
00:30:13,080 --> 00:30:15,720
tears.
Goodbyes would be forever her

608
00:30:15,720 --> 00:30:17,560
would be her without a future
healing anyway.

609
00:30:17,600 --> 00:30:20,880
But heaven changes everything.
That's like the joy of the song.

610
00:30:21,480 --> 00:30:24,120
And so it's playing in the car.
We're driving and Jane's like,

611
00:30:24,120 --> 00:30:25,240
mom, I need you to turn that
down.

612
00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:26,640
I don't think we should be
listening to that.

613
00:30:26,640 --> 00:30:29,400
I'm like, heaven change song
about heaven.

614
00:30:29,400 --> 00:30:31,120
What's wrong with this?
What's wrong with this one?

615
00:30:31,120 --> 00:30:34,920
He's my thinker too.
He's like, he's very wise for

616
00:30:34,920 --> 00:30:36,440
his age.
I feel like.

617
00:30:36,440 --> 00:30:39,000
And I'm like, what's what's
wrong with this song?

618
00:30:39,000 --> 00:30:43,240
And he was very concerned that
by listening to this, his little

619
00:30:43,240 --> 00:30:46,360
brothers would start to think
that heaven changes everything.

620
00:30:46,800 --> 00:30:48,120
Heaven doesn't change
everything.

621
00:30:48,200 --> 00:30:51,520
Only God can change everything.
And that, you know, when I

622
00:30:51,680 --> 00:30:53,880
thought about again, that led to
another really great

623
00:30:53,880 --> 00:30:55,840
conversation.
And in a way, you're right.

624
00:30:55,840 --> 00:30:58,600
There's only, but there's only
heaven because there was a God.

625
00:30:59,000 --> 00:31:00,560
And so I knew what he was
trying.

626
00:31:00,560 --> 00:31:03,840
I think he's allowing us to let
that be in the rotation again.

627
00:31:03,840 --> 00:31:05,600
I think we're allowed to listen
to that again.

628
00:31:05,600 --> 00:31:08,200
It took a little bit, but I
think he gets it now.

629
00:31:09,000 --> 00:31:12,880
But but it is deep.
And I think it's because we talk

630
00:31:13,160 --> 00:31:16,960
about song lyrics like a lot.
My kids have had to listen to a

631
00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:19,080
lot because I want them to know
when they get old.

632
00:31:19,080 --> 00:31:21,280
I mean, you were talking about
your kids liking certain songs.

633
00:31:21,280 --> 00:31:24,400
Like I want them to think it
doesn't always have to be some

634
00:31:24,400 --> 00:31:27,000
Christian song, but it's what
they're listening to.

635
00:31:27,040 --> 00:31:29,520
Like, what are the words that
you're listening to?

636
00:31:29,520 --> 00:31:35,520
Is this glorifying at all?
God, you know, and we've done

637
00:31:35,520 --> 00:31:38,280
that at a very young age.
So they think about it.

638
00:31:38,280 --> 00:31:40,880
They think about words in songs.
Jaden will lean over like even

639
00:31:40,880 --> 00:31:43,760
in church and making sure he
knows what a certain word means

640
00:31:43,760 --> 00:31:47,240
to make sure it's OK to sing.
Make sure Tim Bryan didn't slide

641
00:31:47,240 --> 00:31:49,160
one in there that he shouldn't
have slipped in.

642
00:31:49,160 --> 00:31:50,800
So.
But yeah, talking about song

643
00:31:50,800 --> 00:31:52,760
lyrics or explaining song
lyrics, I should say.

644
00:31:53,720 --> 00:31:57,520
That's good, Leanne.
So that was your last point.

645
00:31:57,520 --> 00:32:00,960
That was my last one.
So my last one is surround

646
00:32:00,960 --> 00:32:04,600
yourself with people who are
parenting purposefully.

647
00:32:04,840 --> 00:32:07,160
And.
And I know you feel the same

648
00:32:07,160 --> 00:32:09,200
because we keep talking about
talking about the same people,

649
00:32:09,320 --> 00:32:13,640
like people in our church who
I'm going to start crying again.

650
00:32:15,680 --> 00:32:18,240
You just surround yourself with
people who are super purposeful

651
00:32:18,240 --> 00:32:22,040
in raising their kids to love
God and love others.

652
00:32:22,480 --> 00:32:26,960
And if you don't have that,
like, find somebody who find

653
00:32:26,960 --> 00:32:28,840
somebody.
Like there are other people.

654
00:32:29,400 --> 00:32:31,240
I think sometimes we're made to
feel like the minority, but

655
00:32:31,240 --> 00:32:34,480
there are a lot of us around who
really want our kids to love God

656
00:32:35,520 --> 00:32:39,000
and serve him.
And yeah, I think that's super.

657
00:32:39,000 --> 00:32:42,480
Important and I think you and I
are both cause like you talk

658
00:32:42,480 --> 00:32:45,520
about this too, like you guys
can't you don't have family

659
00:32:45,520 --> 00:32:47,080
around.
Second, I don't have family

660
00:32:47,080 --> 00:32:50,760
around like the church became
our like whenever I say that you

661
00:32:50,800 --> 00:32:52,680
always come up to me and say
Leanne, our stories are so

662
00:32:52,680 --> 00:32:54,240
similar.
When you Share your story, I'm

663
00:32:54,240 --> 00:32:57,240
like, man, we're that's so
similar to us too, but it's like

664
00:32:57,880 --> 00:33:01,120
the church became our family.
Like that's the that's who

665
00:33:01,120 --> 00:33:04,000
you're with day in and day out
and you're doing life together

666
00:33:04,000 --> 00:33:07,680
and.
I remember when Chloe was like 8

667
00:33:07,680 --> 00:33:10,680
months old and she was in the,
we were in the church kitchen

668
00:33:11,000 --> 00:33:13,080
and I had her like standing up
on the sink and she had like a

669
00:33:13,080 --> 00:33:15,320
double ear infection.
I was like worried about her and

670
00:33:15,600 --> 00:33:17,160
I need to go.
She's not really yours, you

671
00:33:17,160 --> 00:33:19,200
know?
And I was like, what?

672
00:33:19,200 --> 00:33:22,720
She was like, she's not really
yours, you know, she belongs to

673
00:33:22,720 --> 00:33:24,400
the Lord.
You just have her for a short

674
00:33:24,400 --> 00:33:26,240
time.
And I was like, like, that was

675
00:33:26,240 --> 00:33:27,960
literally been.
Chloe was eight months ago.

676
00:33:27,960 --> 00:33:31,520
It was over 20 years ago.
And I think about that often.

677
00:33:31,520 --> 00:33:37,440
Like, he has given me these kids
to raise and to send out to the

678
00:33:37,440 --> 00:33:39,720
world, whatever that may look
like.

679
00:33:39,760 --> 00:33:42,800
Yeah.
You got any tidbits, Leanne?

680
00:33:43,040 --> 00:33:44,840
I don't.
I wish I had some tidbits.

681
00:33:44,840 --> 00:33:46,680
Man, if I.
Bounce off your tidbits.

682
00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:50,800
What did I write down here?
OK, one thing I wrote down was

683
00:33:50,800 --> 00:33:53,120
natural consequences.
I think this is something I've

684
00:33:53,120 --> 00:33:58,040
learned as they've gotten older.
Like if they don't wake up on

685
00:33:58,040 --> 00:34:00,360
their own and get themselves
ready for school.

686
00:34:00,360 --> 00:34:02,480
But your kids are so little.
Like yeah, no, but I.

687
00:34:02,760 --> 00:34:07,040
See, but like when they start,
like I was waking in my kids up

688
00:34:07,080 --> 00:34:10,360
over and over and over again and
it stressed me out, stresses

689
00:34:10,360 --> 00:34:12,800
them out.
And finally I realized, you know

690
00:34:12,800 --> 00:34:15,600
what if they're late to school
five times, the school rule in

691
00:34:15,600 --> 00:34:17,440
the upper school is you get a
detention.

692
00:34:17,800 --> 00:34:23,560
And the first mock kid ever, I'm
not going to say which one, the

693
00:34:23,600 --> 00:34:26,880
very first mock kid ever after
going to the same school for

694
00:34:26,880 --> 00:34:29,520
like 18 years, got a detention
last week.

695
00:34:30,159 --> 00:34:33,040
And you know what?
Now she's that's the beauty of

696
00:34:33,040 --> 00:34:36,159
having all of 1, male or female.
I can say she and people can

697
00:34:36,159 --> 00:34:37,400
think they know who I'm talking
about.

698
00:34:37,400 --> 00:34:38,080
Yeah, right.
That.

699
00:34:38,159 --> 00:34:42,400
Is could be right, you could be
wrong, but she's way more likely

700
00:34:42,400 --> 00:34:44,400
to get up on her own now and I
don't have to bug her.

701
00:34:44,400 --> 00:34:45,920
Yeah, that's true.
The the natural.

702
00:34:45,920 --> 00:34:50,760
Consequences are way more
effective than just nagging and

703
00:34:50,760 --> 00:34:52,920
nagging nagging and it helps
both of you.

704
00:34:53,159 --> 00:34:55,639
What's the lower school rule?
That would help me out with.

705
00:34:56,800 --> 00:35:01,560
With my six year.
Old Julia was OK, so the first

706
00:35:01,560 --> 00:35:03,920
school starts 15 minutes later
than the lower school.

707
00:35:03,920 --> 00:35:07,520
So our focus last year when
Julia was in fifth grade was, I

708
00:35:07,520 --> 00:35:11,200
mean, we care, right?
But there's a consequence if

709
00:35:11,200 --> 00:35:13,320
they don't.
So if Julie is ready and the

710
00:35:13,320 --> 00:35:15,840
others aren't, but they can
still make it at 8:30, we're

711
00:35:15,840 --> 00:35:20,560
going to wait for the others.
And Oh my goodness, I can't even

712
00:35:20,560 --> 00:35:22,680
imagine.
And I did e-mail all of the

713
00:35:22,680 --> 00:35:25,160
teachers and let them know.
Just so y'all know, we are

714
00:35:25,160 --> 00:35:27,360
trying to teach our kids natural
consequences.

715
00:35:27,360 --> 00:35:30,800
If, if Julie, if you want,
there's nothing at school.

716
00:35:30,840 --> 00:35:33,600
I'm like, if you want to make
her walk a lot or whatever, like

717
00:35:33,720 --> 00:35:36,080
we're behind you, we support it.
Yeah, that's good.

718
00:35:36,600 --> 00:35:39,680
That's good.
The other thing I was going to

719
00:35:39,680 --> 00:35:45,280
say is just remember that every
kiddo is very different and I

720
00:35:45,280 --> 00:35:48,760
know you know that like.
That's important, though.

721
00:35:48,800 --> 00:35:51,720
Yes, that's good.
And, and every kiddo is, even

722
00:35:51,720 --> 00:35:54,720
though you and Zach are going to
always be your 4 kids parents,

723
00:35:55,920 --> 00:35:59,400
Jordy's going to get a different
mom at 2:00 than what Jayden had

724
00:35:59,400 --> 00:36:01,000
when Jayden was two, you know
what I'm saying?

725
00:36:01,000 --> 00:36:03,920
So they're getting different
parents in a way.

726
00:36:04,880 --> 00:36:07,320
Phoebe definitely has different
parents than Chloe had when

727
00:36:07,320 --> 00:36:11,200
Chloe was 4.
We we know now more about what

728
00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:15,040
really matters and what doesn't.
A lot still matters, but.

729
00:36:16,760 --> 00:36:20,440
That's good because you're on
the other like side, like you

730
00:36:20,440 --> 00:36:21,960
can see this very well right
now.

731
00:36:21,960 --> 00:36:24,760
I feel like we're kind of in the
look, like we're seeing it, but

732
00:36:24,760 --> 00:36:26,760
we're like seeing it while we're
in the puddle.

733
00:36:26,920 --> 00:36:28,280
Yeah, like we're we're getting
this.

734
00:36:28,720 --> 00:36:30,760
Why isn't it?
But but you're right, they are.

735
00:36:31,160 --> 00:36:33,480
Even little things like I
remember when Chloe was little,

736
00:36:33,480 --> 00:36:36,640
like the thought of her falling
and sleep in bed with us was

737
00:36:36,640 --> 00:36:40,160
like never.
But now Phoebe sometimes will be

738
00:36:40,160 --> 00:36:43,880
and it doesn't happen often.
It literally might happen once

739
00:36:43,880 --> 00:36:46,680
every few months, but she'll
fall asleep on our bed and then

740
00:36:46,680 --> 00:36:49,440
Michael would carry to her bed.
But if that was Chloe, we would

741
00:36:49,440 --> 00:36:52,160
never entertain.
Don't fall asleep, go asleep.

742
00:36:52,160 --> 00:36:55,040
You got to go in your own bed or
the world will end.

743
00:36:55,040 --> 00:36:57,760
Like I don't.
You just realize it's not that

744
00:36:57,760 --> 00:36:58,720
big.
A big a deal?

745
00:36:58,720 --> 00:37:00,160
No, that's really good.
Yes.

746
00:37:00,200 --> 00:37:04,800
And also in that same vein, when
you punish your kids, you're

747
00:37:04,800 --> 00:37:07,600
not, it's not going to look the
same like one of our other kids

748
00:37:07,600 --> 00:37:09,920
can be like, you didn't do that
to me when I did that.

749
00:37:09,960 --> 00:37:11,520
Like, yeah, well, you're a
different person.

750
00:37:11,520 --> 00:37:14,600
Like I can have one kid that I
can say, hey, if you don't get

751
00:37:14,600 --> 00:37:17,600
this done, you can't read a book
until you get it done.

752
00:37:17,800 --> 00:37:21,000
And one of my kids would be
devastated.

753
00:37:21,320 --> 00:37:23,240
And one of my other kids would
be like, who cares?

754
00:37:23,360 --> 00:37:26,200
I don't read books.
So you got to figure out what

755
00:37:26,200 --> 00:37:28,120
works for what kid.
And it's not going to look the

756
00:37:28,120 --> 00:37:32,280
same for every kid.
It might look different with the

757
00:37:32,280 --> 00:37:33,960
stage of life.
You're in the stage of life.

758
00:37:33,960 --> 00:37:37,560
They're in personality.
So many things fall into place

759
00:37:37,560 --> 00:37:40,600
when you're trying to decide how
to raise your kiddos.

760
00:37:41,000 --> 00:37:43,920
And I think you touched on this
too.

761
00:37:43,920 --> 00:37:47,280
Everything's about heart
attitudes, like why are you so

762
00:37:47,320 --> 00:37:48,520
angry?
Is it pride?

763
00:37:48,520 --> 00:37:51,640
Is there's always something.
The heart is the main issue, not

764
00:37:51,640 --> 00:37:54,720
outwardly obedience.
And you don't want to teach them

765
00:37:54,720 --> 00:37:56,360
what to think.
You want to teach them how to

766
00:37:56,360 --> 00:37:57,840
think.
Like, why are you acting this

767
00:37:57,840 --> 00:37:59,800
day?
It's always a heart issue.

768
00:37:59,840 --> 00:38:03,480
And what else was I going to say
that means it.

769
00:38:03,520 --> 00:38:07,240
Oh, the last thing I was going
to say is as a mom, I think, and

770
00:38:07,240 --> 00:38:09,600
this, I think this happened more
when they got older too.

771
00:38:09,600 --> 00:38:12,760
I could lecture and lecture and
lecture and lecture and I start

772
00:38:12,760 --> 00:38:14,720
to sound like Charlie Brown's
teacher.

773
00:38:14,720 --> 00:38:17,920
You know what I'm saying?
I feel like that, but I found

774
00:38:17,920 --> 00:38:21,480
this verse and I, I want to say
it's in Proverbs that it may not

775
00:38:21,480 --> 00:38:23,560
be it.
It says the more the words, the

776
00:38:23,560 --> 00:38:27,360
less the meaning.
So like when I go on for 30

777
00:38:27,360 --> 00:38:29,680
minutes, they haven't heard
anything I say.

778
00:38:30,280 --> 00:38:34,200
And if, if I make everything a
big deal, then nothing's a big

779
00:38:34,200 --> 00:38:36,120
deal.
So yeah, there are important

780
00:38:36,120 --> 00:38:39,280
things to make a big deal, But
but choose like, am I going to

781
00:38:39,280 --> 00:38:42,000
make everything, you know, is it
a big deal that you didn't put

782
00:38:42,000 --> 00:38:44,120
your shoes away and that you
didn't do this and that you

783
00:38:44,120 --> 00:38:48,040
didn't do this?
Like, I don't know, just don't

784
00:38:48,040 --> 00:38:51,720
break their spirit by just
making everything into this 45.

785
00:38:51,720 --> 00:38:55,040
Minute conversation, like every
little tiny thing, I think.

786
00:38:55,040 --> 00:38:58,920
That's a really good one.
Yeah, I I could start talking to

787
00:38:58,920 --> 00:39:03,760
my kid about a test grade and
then in 45 minutes I'm talking

788
00:39:03,760 --> 00:39:05,840
about why the room isn't clean
and it doesn't.

789
00:39:06,560 --> 00:39:07,000
And they.
Yeah.

790
00:39:07,000 --> 00:39:08,040
What are we gaining there?
Yeah.

791
00:39:08,200 --> 00:39:10,880
Yeah, Michael laughed.
We had we went to a parenting

792
00:39:10,880 --> 00:39:13,480
the other day and I said that
point about the more the word

793
00:39:13,480 --> 00:39:16,120
Celestine meaning and he was
like he used a lot of words to

794
00:39:16,720 --> 00:39:18,920
so I feel like I'm getting in
that territory so.

795
00:39:19,560 --> 00:39:21,040
I just shed one a lot.
You know what?

796
00:39:21,040 --> 00:39:24,200
If we're ever on the pot again,
that might be one of my advice.

797
00:39:24,200 --> 00:39:27,120
I might give credit to Jill Mott
and say I learned it on this

798
00:39:27,120 --> 00:39:28,160
day.
What's today's date?

799
00:39:28,400 --> 00:39:29,600
I don't know what today's date
is.

800
00:39:29,600 --> 00:39:31,920
I've been practicing it ever
since.

801
00:39:31,920 --> 00:39:33,360
Yeah.
The more the words, the less

802
00:39:33,360 --> 00:39:34,520
meaning.
And that goes not just for

803
00:39:34,520 --> 00:39:38,760
parenting, but for I was going.
To say for their husbands too.

804
00:39:38,840 --> 00:39:41,240
Yeah, yeah.
I think that oh, you're going to

805
00:39:41,240 --> 00:39:42,880
show your resource.
Yeah, show me all your resources

806
00:39:42,880 --> 00:39:44,120
you're going to.
Show yours too.

807
00:39:44,400 --> 00:39:49,000
OK, all right.
OK, well, I I did say this CD

808
00:39:49,040 --> 00:39:50,720
one.
I really do like that CD.

809
00:39:52,320 --> 00:39:54,920
The actually the Bible.
I got this one from you too.

810
00:39:54,920 --> 00:39:58,080
The Bible app for kids.
I think that's what it's called,

811
00:39:58,080 --> 00:40:00,080
which seems like a very generic
name.

812
00:40:00,160 --> 00:40:03,480
But the Bible app for kids.
You told me about that when

813
00:40:03,480 --> 00:40:08,080
Jayden was little.
And at least my older two kids,

814
00:40:08,080 --> 00:40:12,920
whenever they were allowed to
get iPad time, they would choose

815
00:40:12,920 --> 00:40:16,840
it every single time over any
app that they had.

816
00:40:16,840 --> 00:40:21,880
And I give so much credit to
that for just like the different

817
00:40:21,880 --> 00:40:25,960
Bible stories, they want details
about stories that I had

818
00:40:25,960 --> 00:40:27,720
forgotten.
It was almost embarrassing when

819
00:40:27,720 --> 00:40:32,000
Jayden would like, tell me a
story and he's saying this part

820
00:40:32,000 --> 00:40:34,400
and I would have to get, yeah,
check with your dad on that.

821
00:40:34,480 --> 00:40:37,120
Like I, I kind of forgot, but
it's like it gave great.

822
00:40:37,120 --> 00:40:40,200
It was interactive enough that
they enjoyed watching it.

823
00:40:40,200 --> 00:40:44,160
They would rewatch and they're
just short, like, you know, of

824
00:40:44,160 --> 00:40:47,480
the story.
It wasn't very long, but they

825
00:40:47,480 --> 00:40:49,440
loved it.
And they would choose it over

826
00:40:49,440 --> 00:40:51,200
and over.
I think Jayden probably, I mean,

827
00:40:51,400 --> 00:40:53,080
there are other things that he
would rather do now.

828
00:40:53,080 --> 00:40:56,200
But if I told him to go sit down
and do that, he would not be

829
00:40:56,200 --> 00:40:58,120
upset about it.
He would do it willingly.

830
00:40:59,120 --> 00:41:01,840
So that was a good one.
You know, now that you say that,

831
00:41:01,840 --> 00:41:04,560
I wish I brought this inside,
but there's some little DV DS

832
00:41:04,880 --> 00:41:08,680
and I think it's called I'll
have to I'll have to tell you

833
00:41:08,960 --> 00:41:10,560
later.
And I guess Michael can link it

834
00:41:10,560 --> 00:41:11,320
below.
I don't know.

835
00:41:11,760 --> 00:41:14,360
It's really good lean.
It's like 3 minute long.

836
00:41:14,680 --> 00:41:17,000
It's just a DVD.
There's like four of them and

837
00:41:17,000 --> 00:41:19,160
they're so good.
And, and a lot of times they're

838
00:41:19,160 --> 00:41:23,600
word for word scripture, like
like when Elizabeth and Mary had

839
00:41:23,600 --> 00:41:25,960
their interaction when Mary's
pregnant and Elizabeth's

840
00:41:25,960 --> 00:41:27,360
pregnant.
Like it's literally straight

841
00:41:27,360 --> 00:41:28,600
from the scripture.
Like I'll have to.

842
00:41:28,600 --> 00:41:30,560
Yeah, no, it I'm serious what
those are.

843
00:41:30,680 --> 00:41:32,000
Yeah.
So that's a resource I didn't

844
00:41:32,000 --> 00:41:33,600
know I had.
Yeah, that's good.

845
00:41:33,800 --> 00:41:35,280
Yeah.
What else you got there?

846
00:41:35,360 --> 00:41:36,760
You mean do everything?
Are we going?

847
00:41:36,840 --> 00:41:38,400
Back and forth.
No, I can't.

848
00:41:38,400 --> 00:41:39,400
If you.
I mean, it's up to.

849
00:41:39,640 --> 00:41:42,560
Them no, we'll do every other.
So this is called praying the

850
00:41:42,560 --> 00:41:45,200
scripture for your children.
I don't know that one.

851
00:41:45,840 --> 00:41:48,160
It's really good, Leanne.
I haven't heard of that one.

852
00:41:48,160 --> 00:41:54,760
So you just, and a lot of things
have meant more to me as they

853
00:41:54,760 --> 00:41:55,920
get old.
You know what I'm saying, Like

854
00:41:56,880 --> 00:41:58,560
praying for wisdom and
discernment.

855
00:41:58,560 --> 00:42:01,640
And then you go to the chapter
on wisdom and discernment and

856
00:42:01,640 --> 00:42:03,320
you're literally praying the
scripture.

857
00:42:03,920 --> 00:42:07,040
And I know Michael would always
say never read a Bible verse,

858
00:42:07,040 --> 00:42:09,520
like look for the context and
make sure it makes sense.

859
00:42:09,520 --> 00:42:13,480
But it's really when you don't
know what to pray or like if

860
00:42:13,480 --> 00:42:15,720
your kids going through a tough
time, but it says praying for

861
00:42:15,720 --> 00:42:18,320
your kids salvation, praying for
your kid to love God's word,

862
00:42:18,640 --> 00:42:21,400
praying for your kids gifts.
It's just really good.

863
00:42:23,400 --> 00:42:25,200
And it's all verses or it's like
a.

864
00:42:25,240 --> 00:42:28,440
Yeah, so like this is praying
for your child's character and

865
00:42:28,440 --> 00:42:31,720
it says don't let blank.
So you say don't let Chloe

866
00:42:31,720 --> 00:42:34,440
become weary and doing good, but
at the proper time she will re

867
00:42:34,520 --> 00:42:36,680
harvest.
It's really good.

868
00:42:37,600 --> 00:42:39,600
Oh yeah, added to my Christmas
list.

869
00:42:39,760 --> 00:42:42,480
I know that little bookmark,
though, that you had in that

870
00:42:42,480 --> 00:42:43,200
book.
Oh yeah.

871
00:42:43,680 --> 00:42:45,400
That goes with it.
Yeah, so.

872
00:42:45,400 --> 00:42:47,240
I have that in on my bathroom
mirror.

873
00:42:47,240 --> 00:42:49,600
Yeah, and you can get like a
pack of like fifty of these from

874
00:42:49,600 --> 00:42:51,680
Amazon I.
Didn't know that and I think

875
00:42:51,680 --> 00:42:55,200
Luanna said last thing that she
did and she's like oh, I'll get

876
00:42:55,200 --> 00:42:56,280
you one, but you can get like
do.

877
00:42:56,280 --> 00:42:57,600
You so you do have.
One I do have.

878
00:42:57,600 --> 00:42:59,200
One.
OK, yeah, this is really good

879
00:42:59,200 --> 00:43:01,520
too.
Like you just take a day, you

880
00:43:01,520 --> 00:43:03,120
know, it's one through 31.
What?

881
00:43:03,120 --> 00:43:05,280
They're called.
Biblical virtues to pray for

882
00:43:05,280 --> 00:43:09,200
your kids and the first one so I
would pray this on the month of

883
00:43:09,360 --> 00:43:12,000
the 1st of the month salvation
Lord let salvation spring up

884
00:43:12,000 --> 00:43:14,520
within my children that they may
obtain the salvation that is in

885
00:43:14,520 --> 00:43:18,880
Christ Jesus with eternal glory
and I pray these for my kids

886
00:43:18,880 --> 00:43:19,880
every day and then when the
month.

887
00:43:19,880 --> 00:43:21,320
Starts over.
I'll start.

888
00:43:21,320 --> 00:43:23,680
Again, and they have these for
like praying for your husband,

889
00:43:23,720 --> 00:43:25,880
pray.
For your pastor, I'm not like

890
00:43:25,880 --> 00:43:29,320
super consistent.
I'll go and like it's on my

891
00:43:29,880 --> 00:43:31,480
bathroom mirrors, so I see it
all the time.

892
00:43:31,480 --> 00:43:34,000
I'm not super consistent, but I
have in the past used it like

893
00:43:34,000 --> 00:43:36,200
you said, like I've used it for
Zach before.

894
00:43:36,200 --> 00:43:38,680
I I mean, I know they're kids
ones, but some of them, you

895
00:43:38,680 --> 00:43:40,520
know, I've just, I don't know if
one of them's wisdom or

896
00:43:40,520 --> 00:43:43,680
something like that, you know,
but I'll he needs a lot of

897
00:43:43,680 --> 00:43:45,760
wisdom, but he's got a lot of
wisdom.

898
00:43:45,800 --> 00:43:47,520
So I guess it's because of that
praying wife He's.

899
00:43:47,600 --> 00:43:49,520
Got There you go.
Let's see, what day is wisdom

900
00:43:49,520 --> 00:43:51,040
like?
Really, there's probably no

901
00:43:51,040 --> 00:43:53,560
wisdom on there.
I'm probably just I'm sure there

902
00:43:53,560 --> 00:43:57,160
has to be wisdom on there.
All right, Well, just for kids

903
00:43:57,160 --> 00:43:59,480
don't need that great good.
I'm.

904
00:43:59,640 --> 00:44:01,040
Sure, it's over on.
Your I'm sure I've prayed

905
00:44:01,040 --> 00:44:03,760
something for Zach on that.
Please don't make me out to be a

906
00:44:03,760 --> 00:44:05,440
lawyer.
I know I I mean.

907
00:44:05,440 --> 00:44:08,680
He is saved, so I say that was.
Everything Thank the Lord for

908
00:44:08,680 --> 00:44:14,440
that salvation.
OK, the Jesus storybook Bible.

909
00:44:14,440 --> 00:44:17,440
I don't know where I'm holding
this Where the where are you

910
00:44:17,440 --> 00:44:19,000
camera?
I can't.

911
00:44:19,000 --> 00:44:19,560
See it?
So yeah.

912
00:44:20,080 --> 00:44:22,560
Jesus storybook Bible.
We love this.

913
00:44:22,560 --> 00:44:28,200
As far as like for when they're
young, this is just takes you

914
00:44:28,200 --> 00:44:34,320
from Genesis to Revelation, but
it points back to to Jesus in

915
00:44:34,320 --> 00:44:37,520
every single story, which is
ultimately and and I don't think

916
00:44:37,520 --> 00:44:41,120
I really, I mean, I'm sure I
knew that growing up, but I

917
00:44:41,120 --> 00:44:44,880
think as I've gotten older, just
being able to pick out in every

918
00:44:44,880 --> 00:44:48,600
story Jesus how it all just goes
back to that.

919
00:44:48,600 --> 00:44:52,560
And I think this little
storybook Bible does it well.

920
00:44:53,000 --> 00:44:55,000
And the drawings matter really
good to you or the

921
00:44:55,000 --> 00:44:56,280
illustrations.
They're great.

922
00:44:56,320 --> 00:44:59,080
Yeah.
Jordy was, I sent you the video.

923
00:44:59,080 --> 00:45:02,280
I guess he was reading this one
Sunday before church and he's

924
00:45:02,280 --> 00:45:05,120
like trying to pack it in the
bags that were taken to church.

925
00:45:05,120 --> 00:45:06,840
And he's like, I got to bring
this for my girls.

926
00:45:07,120 --> 00:45:09,120
And Phoebe's one of his conjured
daughters, one of his girls.

927
00:45:10,000 --> 00:45:11,680
He's like, I got to read my
Bible to my girls.

928
00:45:12,760 --> 00:45:14,600
He's got like 3 girls who are
his age.

929
00:45:14,600 --> 00:45:16,680
And so, yeah, but we love this
one.

930
00:45:16,680 --> 00:45:19,840
This is a great, great one.
That's good.

931
00:45:21,280 --> 00:45:25,720
This, I feel like it's not all
has to do with something with

932
00:45:25,720 --> 00:45:27,160
scripture.
So this is parenting with

933
00:45:27,160 --> 00:45:31,120
scripture.
And if your kid is struggling

934
00:45:31,120 --> 00:45:37,480
with anything, death, cursing,
courage, cooperation,

935
00:45:37,480 --> 00:45:40,560
contentment, which is something
that I feel like I could even

936
00:45:40,560 --> 00:45:42,600
learn.
It gives you the verses to go

937
00:45:42,600 --> 00:45:44,080
by.
It gives you discussion.

938
00:45:45,560 --> 00:45:48,120
Put a glass filled halfway in
front of your child and say is

939
00:45:48,120 --> 00:45:49,680
this class half full or half
empty?

940
00:45:49,680 --> 00:45:54,120
And then it just talks about how
to to biblically handle every.

941
00:45:54,680 --> 00:45:56,240
Man, that's the second one I
haven't heard of.

942
00:45:56,440 --> 00:45:58,680
I'm not a great.
This one may be pretty.

943
00:45:58,840 --> 00:45:59,640
Old.
No, you are.

944
00:45:59,640 --> 00:46:01,960
It's really good.
And I feel like it just shows

945
00:46:01,960 --> 00:46:03,880
the different stages we're in
too, you know what I'm saying?

946
00:46:03,880 --> 00:46:07,480
Like if you would have had me on
here when Chloe was five, I

947
00:46:07,480 --> 00:46:10,360
wouldn't have pulled out any.
Of those, no, I really like that

948
00:46:10,360 --> 00:46:11,320
one.
That's good.

949
00:46:13,560 --> 00:46:15,440
All right.
So I was talking earlier about

950
00:46:15,440 --> 00:46:20,720
like praying attributes of God
and the the day that we got a

951
00:46:20,720 --> 00:46:24,240
lot of prayers about that, we
were going through these books.

952
00:46:24,240 --> 00:46:28,800
So this is a this one is called
I they're actually called both I

953
00:46:28,840 --> 00:46:35,960
am but 40 reasons to trust God.
It goes through all the names of

954
00:46:36,200 --> 00:46:38,400
God.
This one is for like I would

955
00:46:38,400 --> 00:46:41,640
read more to them.
It's I guess I'm, I'm not

956
00:46:41,640 --> 00:46:45,480
showing this to anyone right now
going there's a lot more words

957
00:46:45,480 --> 00:46:47,560
is what I'm trying to say.
Like it's more in depth.

958
00:46:47,840 --> 00:46:50,880
This one is, you know, one of
your board books, so it's

959
00:46:50,880 --> 00:46:57,200
cardboard fewer words.
But these two books are really

960
00:46:57,200 --> 00:47:00,400
great just going into the
attributes and teaching

961
00:47:00,400 --> 00:47:02,880
attributes of God.
I remember Jackson when he was

962
00:47:02,880 --> 00:47:07,920
like 3 or 4, we were going
through this book and for a year

963
00:47:07,920 --> 00:47:12,000
straight he started every
prayer, Holy sovereign king.

964
00:47:12,320 --> 00:47:13,560
It wasn't dear Jesus, it was
holy.

965
00:47:13,560 --> 00:47:16,840
He was remembering those 3
atrophies that really stuck with

966
00:47:16,840 --> 00:47:18,720
him.
And I have video of him, just

967
00:47:18,720 --> 00:47:21,080
every holy sovereign king.
And that's how he would start

968
00:47:21,080 --> 00:47:24,000
every single prayer.
But those two are really good

969
00:47:25,400 --> 00:47:27,040
good books for.
Teaching.

970
00:47:27,040 --> 00:47:31,760
I've never heard of names of God
and goes into detail of like a

971
00:47:31,760 --> 00:47:34,800
story in the Bible that maybe
where it was used it's good.

972
00:47:36,160 --> 00:47:38,400
That's really good.
These are my last ones and

973
00:47:38,400 --> 00:47:41,800
actually I thought about this
when I read your notes through

974
00:47:42,400 --> 00:47:45,760
in the summer and you were
talking about how songs, but I

975
00:47:45,760 --> 00:47:47,640
think I misunderstood what
you're saying.

976
00:47:48,800 --> 00:47:51,240
But this is called hymns for a
kids heart.

977
00:47:51,280 --> 00:47:55,200
So it will take you through each
hymn that has ever you know, and

978
00:47:55,200 --> 00:47:59,440
it will tell you the background
behind the whim, the whim, the

979
00:47:59,440 --> 00:48:03,480
background behind the hymn, who
wrote it, and.

980
00:48:03,560 --> 00:48:06,080
Oh I love.
That so and it has a CD with it

981
00:48:06,080 --> 00:48:07,920
so you can like then listen to
the.

982
00:48:08,480 --> 00:48:11,640
That is why didn't anybody, like
When I was starting

983
00:48:11,640 --> 00:48:14,880
homeschooling, I was looking for
a book specifically to teach

984
00:48:14,880 --> 00:48:18,680
hymns and I feel like I there
was stuff out, but I just didn't

985
00:48:18,680 --> 00:48:20,360
know.
I mean, those are perfect.

986
00:48:21,840 --> 00:48:24,120
Those are really great.
I'm not homesteading anymore.

987
00:48:24,600 --> 00:48:27,680
Oh, unfortunately, I guess I
still teach in my home.

988
00:48:28,240 --> 00:48:30,640
I guess I can still mother.
But yeah, it's just really cool

989
00:48:30,640 --> 00:48:33,120
'cause then when you 'cause we
do at our church, we do sing a

990
00:48:33,120 --> 00:48:34,560
good mixture.
I think of like hymns.

991
00:48:34,560 --> 00:48:35,600
We do.
Yeah, Yeah.

992
00:48:36,320 --> 00:48:38,240
And that way.
So why are there two of them?

993
00:48:38,520 --> 00:48:40,600
They just have different one.
They're the same thing, just

994
00:48:40,600 --> 00:48:43,760
different songs.
OK, Yeah, yeah, I love that.

995
00:48:43,760 --> 00:48:45,800
Yeah.
That's the last thing I have.

996
00:48:46,400 --> 00:48:48,920
All right, I really should have
done a different order because

997
00:48:48,920 --> 00:48:53,120
I'm ending on one that it's not
biblical and spiritual at all.

998
00:48:53,520 --> 00:48:56,560
This is the best 15 bucks I've
ever spent on Amazon.

999
00:48:57,000 --> 00:49:01,920
This is an electronic doorbell.
Oh, I've seen people do this.

1000
00:49:02,040 --> 00:49:03,760
Like if you push it right now,
your kids come running down

1001
00:49:03,760 --> 00:49:05,080
here.
I don't know if it'll stretch

1002
00:49:05,080 --> 00:49:07,880
all the way to my we're not far
from my house actually, but so

1003
00:49:07,960 --> 00:49:09,600
am I.
They're sleeping so I'm not

1004
00:49:09,600 --> 00:49:12,640
going to do it right now.
In their room they have the

1005
00:49:12,640 --> 00:49:14,440
doorbell that hooks up to their
outlet.

1006
00:49:14,720 --> 00:49:17,880
And I was just getting so tired
of yelling up to them.

1007
00:49:17,880 --> 00:49:20,160
They weren't even in trouble.
I would just be yelling up like

1008
00:49:20,160 --> 00:49:22,120
it's time for dinner or come do
this.

1009
00:49:22,120 --> 00:49:24,520
And I just constantly felt
myself yelling and I didn't want

1010
00:49:24,520 --> 00:49:26,520
to yell as much.
And so I get this.

1011
00:49:27,320 --> 00:49:30,600
I hit it one time and they they
think it's the funnest.

1012
00:49:30,680 --> 00:49:33,360
I mean they love this it.
Works it's.

1013
00:49:33,400 --> 00:49:37,200
Really good at Christmas.
I can change the tune to a

1014
00:49:37,200 --> 00:49:39,600
little Christmas Jingle there,
you know, good.

1015
00:49:39,600 --> 00:49:40,760
I think there's even happy
birthday.

1016
00:49:41,160 --> 00:49:44,320
But yeah, I click it.
They come running down and it's

1017
00:49:44,320 --> 00:49:48,800
just been a way to lower.
I don't need any more like loud

1018
00:49:49,160 --> 00:49:52,160
chaos in my home so.
Do you have one for Zach?

1019
00:49:52,720 --> 00:49:56,440
I don't have one for Zach.
It scares him if he's up there

1020
00:49:57,120 --> 00:49:59,800
and he's the kids are all
running.

1021
00:49:59,800 --> 00:50:02,920
He's little.
I will say we have a dinner bell

1022
00:50:03,200 --> 00:50:04,640
because same thing.
Well.

1023
00:50:05,280 --> 00:50:06,800
Like a.
Yeah, like a good thing.

1024
00:50:06,800 --> 00:50:09,240
It's tough for dinner.
It's tough for dinner.

1025
00:50:09,440 --> 00:50:11,200
Everywhere.
It's like they're doing their

1026
00:50:11,200 --> 00:50:12,720
own thing.
They can't always hear either,

1027
00:50:12,720 --> 00:50:14,400
so you're yelling.
They can hear that bell now.

1028
00:50:14,400 --> 00:50:16,560
I will say now every time they
hear the bell they think food's

1029
00:50:16,560 --> 00:50:19,680
involved and sometimes it's not,
but that's really good.

1030
00:50:19,960 --> 00:50:21,400
Like a handbell, though, you
have.

1031
00:50:21,400 --> 00:50:25,680
Yeah, like.
There's a bell over there.

1032
00:50:25,680 --> 00:50:28,560
I like that.
Yeah, that's it.

1033
00:50:28,560 --> 00:50:29,920
That's all I got.
All right.

1034
00:50:29,920 --> 00:50:31,600
I think that's.
It well right.

1035
00:50:31,640 --> 00:50:33,080
Yeah, we think we did a great
job.

1036
00:50:33,320 --> 00:50:35,280
Yeah, I think we're going to
bring them a lot.

1037
00:50:35,280 --> 00:50:38,000
More takes up like listeners 2
listeners.

1038
00:50:38,440 --> 00:50:39,840
We really brought it to the next
level.

1039
00:50:40,160 --> 00:50:41,280
What?
How do they wrap up?

1040
00:50:41,280 --> 00:50:43,240
That's our take, That's our
take.

1041
00:50:43,360 --> 00:50:45,080
Do we say it like at the same
time?

1042
00:50:45,360 --> 00:50:46,880
Yeah, like count to three or
something?

1043
00:50:48,640 --> 00:50:53,600
That's our take.
Thanks for listening to Take 2.

1044
00:50:54,280 --> 00:50:56,800
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1045
00:50:56,800 --> 00:50:58,680
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